`labelsize` arguments need fixes

[Dr-Irv]

          Oh , the upstream docs of this, and other label size usages, will need to be updated to accept `float | str | None` (See the [matplotlib docs](https://matplotlib.org/stable/api/_as_gen/matplotlib.axes.Axes.tick_params.html)). I typed them as `int | None` here for now because they need to be fixed everywhere in pandas-stubs, not just this file. We can do that in a separate PR.

Originally posted by @hamdanal in #848 (comment)

Probably needs fixes in the stubs and in pandas docs