PYTHON-1364 Fix ssl.wrap_socket errors (from eventlet) for Python 3.12 (datastax#1181)

Author: absurdfarce

cassandra/cluster.py

@@ -127,8 +127,12 @@ def _is_eventlet_monkey_patched():
 def _is_gevent_monkey_patched():
     if 'gevent.monkey' not in sys.modules:
         return False
-    import gevent.socket
-    return socket.socket is gevent.socket.socket
+    try:
+        import eventlet.patcher
+        return eventlet.patcher.is_monkey_patched('socket')
+    # Another case related to PYTHON-1364
+    except AttributeError:
+        return False
 
 
 # default to gevent when we are monkey patched with gevent, eventlet when